Also, tracking her by cell phone? What are you going to think? Hes 19 and in school. As soon as I got my full license however, I would tell my parents I was leaving, and not be home for maybe a day or two. Frequently, the weekends are less structured and the kids have the flexibility to sleep in. It is subjecting them to a form of control they are not legally obliged to be subservient to, but morally obliged to if a parent is imposing it on to them. I would really appreciate a discussion on what others have set as curfew for their high schoolers for the each of the ages 14-17 y. As far, as I am concerned nothing good happens after 11 p. And then I remembered that yes, our son, was allowed at that age to be out that late from time to time too.
I didn't ask you to agree with me in fact I said everyone is different. And that's certainly not an example that I want to set for my son. She wants freedom to do as she pleases and not hear lectures and to spread her wings. Just ask him to try to be home by a certain time each night to make it convenient for you and your wife so you don't have to worry about him. If your neighborhood sees a fair amount of crime, an earlier curfew might help keep them safe. I can take away occasional rides and the cell phone that I pay for.
Weekend curfew, 17 or younger must be in by 11:00 pm. If he can't handle that, he can get his own place where there are no rules. Over the summer, we asked her to leave. Really, she it isn't going to get any better between now and her 18th birthday. She would usually let me know if she was going to be later.
On another night, you might let them to stay out until 11:00 p. I see some good things here. State of Illinois Curfew Law: It is unlawful for a person less than 17 years of age to be present at or upon any public assembly, building, place, street or highway at the following times unless accompanied and supervised by a parent, legal guardian, or other responsible companion at least 18 years of age approved by a parent or legal guardian or unless engaged in a business or occupation which the laws of the state authorize a person less than 17 years of age to perform: 1. And I try to find out what they're doing, therefore how long she needs to be out. When my oldest daughter was 13 she developed an eating disorder. She is not in school and is working full time.
We take all toys we bought you. He was a typical teenage boy who couldn't see past Friday, but in reality has made pretty good choices the past year or so. Are we talking about a kid paying rent? I would purchase some books about teens and perhaps look into family council with out your daughter. He wants to stay out basically until 3 or 4 in the morning - every night - to which my question is - where do even 18 year olds go until 3 or 4 in the morning every night? Hes 19 and in school. If he gets home safely and quietly ie: doesn't wake everyone up at 3am and isn't drunk driving, let him be. Has he 'tested' the limits yet? Obviously, you don't want your teen to speed to get home on time.
But his parents allowing anything became my worst nightmare these last four years, and had I had a crystal ball back in kindergarten, I really think I would have tried to encourage our son to develop stronger relationships with other kids who's parents didn't let them do this sort of stuff - so, too lenient, can actually cost them friends too. If she thinks she is tired just working 38 hrs a week. My 19 year old rarely drinks and she just finished her freshman year at college. I don't know what to do. What time do you think she should be home by? Tracking her every move through her cellphone is really over the top and someone who is not a criminal doesn't deserve that kind of tracking. So, fold like the other parents and have no curfew? At 15 she wasn't going out with friends on the weekends much so it wasn't an issue. I know that there are an awful lot of temptations out in the world for kids her age, opportunities for her to get in trouble and we discuss these issues constantly also.
Nonetheless, I would suggest no later than 11 p. I am not made of money, but like most parents, I wanted my child to have a better life. In the morning we had a chat about it — transparency on both sides. Let them know that they need to demonstrate greater responsibility before you expand their privileges. The comment that really concerned me was the mom who mentioned something about knowing that her son drinks and smokes pot, and I think there was a reply later on that said if that parent had known for a fact that was going on - their kid wouldn't be going out.
Scott I think it is pretty reasonable. Set a clear curfew well in advance and tell him he needs to check in with you if his plans change. But, participating in household chores is not one of them. So, fold like the other parents and have no curfew? Are we talking about a school night? If they stay out 30 days in a row to an unreasonable hour, and 29 days they watch movies at a friend's - but the 30th day they decide to have alcohol, get in the car, drive drunk, and heaven help us, hurt themselves, their friends, or some innocent person on the street - days 1-29 mean absolutely nothing. Of course he says his friends have no curfew.